Selasa, 20 Oktober 2009

Avoidant personality disorder

Avoidant personality disorder

Source : Wikipedia
Avoidant personality disorder (AvPD)[1] (or Anxious personality disorder[2]) is a personality disorder recognized in the DSM handbook, characterized by a pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and avoidance of social interaction.
People with AvPD often consider themselves to be socially inept or personally unappealing, and avoid social interaction for fear of being ridiculed, humiliated, rejected or disliked.
AvPD is usually first noticed in early adulthood, and is associated with perceived or actual rejection by parents or peers during childhood. Whether the feeling of rejection is due to the extreme interpersonal monitoring attributed to people with the disorder is still disputed.

The DSM-IV-TR, a widely used manual for diagnosing mental disorders, defines avoidant personality disorder as:

A pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, and hypersensitivity to negative evaluation, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:
  1. avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection
  2. is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked
  3. shows restraint initiating intimate relationships because of the fear of being ashamed, ridiculed, or rejected due to severe low self-worth
  4. is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations
  5. is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy
  6. views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others
  7. is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing
Histrionic personality disorder

Histrionic personality disorder

source : wikipedia
Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) is defined by the American Psychiatric Association as a personality disorder characterized by a pattern of excessive emotionality and attention-seeking, including an excessive need for approval and inappropriate seductiveness, usually beginning in early adulthood. These individuals are lively, dramatic, enthusiastic, and flirtatious. They may be inappropriately sexually provocative, express strong emotions with an impressionistic style, and be easily influenced by others.
Associated features may include egocentricity, self-indulgence, continuous longing for appreciation, feelings that are easily hurt, and persistent manipulative behaviour to achieve own needs.


Wow,somehow i feel that THIS IS the disorder i'm suffered with. At least some of it. Please check the underlined texts, those are my symptoms!!
And the more wacky thingy is : it decents from my mum!!
I just realized recently that she also has those signs....

Oh dear God, i don't know what to say other than Subhanallah ....

Senin, 19 Oktober 2009

Karena Nila Setitik, Rusak Susu Sebelanga

Karena Nila Setitik, Rusak Susu Sebelanga

Pepatah tersebut bermaksud bahwa segala kebaikan yang kita lakukan selama ini, suatu saat bisa rusak hanya karena suatu kesalahan kecil, atau kesalahan yang mungkin kurang relevan.
Dalam kasus ku, mungkin lebih tepat untuk sekaligus dikaitkan dengan pepatah : "semut di ujung lautan nampak, namun gajah di pelupuk mata tak nampak", hingga lengkaplah kondisi yang menyelimutiku saat posting ini dipublish.
Mungkin memang sudah menjadi nasibku untuk selalu 'disalahpahami', entah itu sesuai EYD atau tidak, yang pasti adalah orang lain cenderung untuk salah paham terhadapku.

Di hari ini aku telah diberi kabar yang cukup mengejutkan, yang selama ini diluar prasangka ku, bahkan lebih buruk daripada prasangka terburuk ku. Konyolnya, semua itu hanya karena hal yang menurutku sepele - sangat sepele, bahkan amat sangat sepele. Mungkin aku harus segera merubah sikap hidup ku ini untuk menjadi pribadi yang lebih kompatibel dengan orang lain. Berkat salah paham itu juga, segala kebaikan dan prestasi ku seolah lenyap, tak nampak, tak berbekas, tak dihargai ...

Huh, sisi buruk ku berkata, "percuma saja dikau berprestasi, orang lain akan selalu saja bersalahpaham terhadapmu ..."
Dan, sisi baik ku berkata, "syukuri apa yang ada, mungkin itulah jalan terbaikmu"

Dari dua pernyataan tersebut, hatiku condong pada pernyataan pertama, walaupun sikap dan perbuatanku condong pada pernyataan kedua. Sekali lagi, ini berkat sifat introvert yang kumiliki.
Ah, entahlah, aku tak tahu lagi mana yang benar dan mana yang salah. Percuma sajalah. Yang pasti saat ini, akan kulakukan semua sesuai protokol yang berlaku, dan kupendam dalam-dalam segala kreativitas dan prestasi yang kupunya, toh, ujung-ujungnya mereka akan SALAH PAHAM LAGI ...

Minggu, 18 Oktober 2009

Setting GPRS/MMS di beberapa provider seluler di Indonesia

Setting GPRS/MMS di beberapa provider seluler di Indonesia

Setting di bawah ini saya dapat dari situs lain, tapi mohon maaf saya lupa situs apa.
====================
Setting GPRS dan MMS
====================
Telkomsel
=========
Cara mengaktifkan GPRS/MMS Kartu Halo :
Daftar di GRAPARI atau ketik GPRS dan kirim ke 6616 dan MMS ke 6616
Cara mengaktifkan GPRS/MMS Kartu Simpati :
Ketik GPRS <nomer kode dibelakang simcard SIMPATI> dan kirim ke 6616
Ketik MMS <nomer kode dibelakang simcard SIMPATI> dan kirim ke 6616
Cara mengaktifkan Flash untuk kartuHALO/simPATI/Kartu As :
Ketik flash dan kirim ke 3636
GPRS
====
1. Access Point Name (APN) : telkomsel atau internet

2. Username : wap
3. Password : wap123
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.1.89.130
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8000 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://wap.telkomsel.com
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","internet"
MMS
===
1. Access Point Name (APN) : mms
2. Username : wap
3. Password : wap123
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.1.89.150
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8000 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://mms.telkomsel.com
=======
Indosat
=======
IM3
===
GPRS dan MMS otomatis aktif perdananya
GPRS (Rp.1/KB)
====
1. Access Point Name (APN) : www.indosat-m3.net
2. Username : gprs
3. Password : im3
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 010.019.019.019
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://wap.indosat-m3.net
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","www.indosat-m3.net"
MMS
===
1. Access Point Name (APN) : mms.indosat-m3.net
2. Username : mms
3. Password : im3
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 010.019.019.019
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://mmsc.m3-access.com
GPRS Durasi (Rp.100/menit)
===========
1. Access Point Name (APN) : indosatgprs
2. Username : indosat@durasi
3. Password : indosat@durasi
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 010.019.019.019
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://wap.indosat-m3.net
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","indosatgprs"
Mentari
=======
Cara aktifin GPRS/MMS Ketik sms: "PAN MMS" ke 888
GPRS
====
1. Access Point Name (APN) : indosatgprs
2. UserName : indosat
3. Password : indosat
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.19.19.19
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://wap.klub-mentari.com
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","indosatgprs"
MMS
===
1. Access Point Name (APN) : indosatmms
2. Username : indosat
3. Password : indosat
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.19.19.19
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://mmsc.satelindogprs.com
Matrix
======
Cara aktifin GPRS/MMS Ketik sms: "PAN GPRS" kirim ke 888 dan "PAN MMS" ke 888
GPRS
====
1. Access Point Name (APN) : satelindogprs.com
2. Username : (dikosongkan)
3. Password : (dikosongkan)
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 202.152.162.250
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://satwap
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","satelindogprs.com"
MMS
===
1. Access Point Name (APN) : mms.satelindogprs.com
2. Username : satmms
3. Password : satmms
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 202.152.162.088
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8081 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://mmsc.satelindogprs.com
================
XL (Xplor/Bebas)
================
Cara Mengaktifkan GPRS/MMS telpon ke 818 bicara dengan CSO nya (pilihan angka 0)
GPRS
====
1. Access Point Name (APN) : www.xlgprs.net
2. Username : xlgprs
3. Password : proxl
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 202.152.240.50
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://wap.lifehand.com
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","www.xlgprs.net"
MMS
===
1. Access Point Name (APN) : www.xlmms.net
2. Username : xlgprs
3. Password : proxl
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 202.152.240.50
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://mmc.xl.net.id/servlets/mms
=========
Three (3)
=========
GPRS dan MMS otomatis aktif perdananya
GPRS
====
1. Access Point Name (APN) : 3gprs
2. Username : 3gprs
3. Password : 3gprs
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.4.0.10
5. Port : 3128
6. Homepage : http://wap.three.co.id
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","3gprs"
AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","ec"
MMS
===
1. Access Point Name (APN) : 3mms
2. Username : 3mms
3. Password : 3mms
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.4.0.10
5. Port : 3128
6. Homepage : http://mms.three.co.id
====
AXIS
====
GPRS dan MMS otomatis aktif perdananya
GPRS
====
1. Access Point Name (APN) : AXIS
2. Username : AXIS
3. Password : 123456
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.8.3.8
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://wap.axisworld.co.id
7. PC Dial Number : *99***1#
8. Extra Setting for PC : AT+CGDCONT=1,"IP","AXIS"
MMS
===
1. Access Point Name (APN) : AXISmms
2. Username : AXIS
3. Password : 123456
4. WAP Gateway IP Address : 10.8.3.8
5. Port : 9201 (standard), 8080 (proxy)
6. Homepage : http://mmsc.AXIS

Senin, 12 Oktober 2009

Mimpi yang menakjubkan

Mimpi yang menakjubkan

12 Oktober '09,dini hari.

Aku mendapat mimpi yg sangat menakjubkan tentang 'prosesi' itu.Lucunya,aku tidak ingat akan inti dari acara tsb.Yg kuingat hanyalah sebelum dan sesudahnya (ttd).Karena,dalam mimpi itu aku dikisahkan sedang 'blank' di saat menjalaninya,dan konyolnya-hal tsb kuceritakan kpd ibuku yang terheran-heran mendengarnya.

'kok bisa?',katanya.

Dan tipikal seperti mimpi2ku lainnya,mimpi tsb suatu saat Insyaalloh akan jadi nyata.Tapi aneh juga jika jadi nyata,karena memang sangat ANEH.Dan Alloh SWT,seperti biasa pula,hanya memberiku sedikit petunjuk dan membangunkanku sebelum petunjuknya komplit.

Yeah,bagaimanapun juga aku hanya bisa berkomentar,'Subhanallah...'.Semoga mimpi ini akan menjadi nyata...

Amien...ya Rabbal 'alamin...



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Sabtu, 19 September 2009

Sebuah Pikiran

Sebuah Pikiran

Pada saat aku mengikuti kutbah sholat jumat di tanggal 18 sept '09,
aku seolah mendapat pencerahan, enlightment, atau Hidayah...

Ia berupa sebuah pemikiran, yang berisi beberapa poin, sbb :
- segala Emosi Negatif merupakan produk dari diri manusia itu sendiri,
biasanya dari hati/qalbu, dan biasanya bersifat "generated" atau
dihasilkan.
- segala Emosi Positif merupakan pemberian dari Alloh SWT, dan
biasanya bersifat "release", atau dilepaskan/melepaskan.

Contoh Emosi Negatif :
suuzan, iri, dengki, hasud, amarah, nafsu syahwat, dsb dst dll

Contoh Emosi Positif :
syukur, ridho, ikhlas, husnuzan, dsb dst dll

Selama ini aku merasa susah mengendalikan emosi, terutama yang
Negatif. Alhamdulillah berkat adanya pemikiran seperti tersebut di
atas, aku mulai dapat mengendalikan emosi ku.

Intinya adalah :
- jika Emosi Negatif mulai muncul, segeralah tarik nafas dalam-dalam,
InsyaAlloh ia akan lenyap dan digantikan dengan Emosi Positif
dari-Nya...
- benamkan dalam-dalam di benak kita bahwa sesungguhnya Alloh itu Maha
Pengasih dan Maha Penyayang, dan Ia Maha Dekat, atau .... Dia ada di
sekitar kita. Dengan begitu kita selalu yakin bahwa sebenarnya di
mana-mana itu selalu ada rahmad-Nya, yang sebenarnya dapat dengan
mudah kita ambil dan olah menjadi Emosi Positif.
- niscaya, cara pandang kita terhadap dunia ini beserta isinya akan
selalu dalam kerangka positif dan selalu di jalan-Nya.

Semoga dengan selalu mengkonsumsi Emosi Positif dari-Nya setiap hari
dan di tiap tarikan nafas kita, maka kita mampu hidup dan menghidupi
dunia ini sesuai dengan kehendak-Nya...

Subhanallah...

"Dan tidak Aku ciptakan jin dan manusia melainkan untuk beribadah kepada-Ku..."
(QS. ADzzariyat : 56)

Senin, 14 September 2009

Iklan xl yang 'lucu'

Iklan xl yang 'lucu'

Yang ada putri titian nya tuh... Suaranya 'lucu' (klo g mau dibilang 'ngeri'). Masa' serak kyk bocah cowok. Btw,sempat tuh di-dubbing,hehehe.



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Senin, 07 September 2009

mbuh

mbuh

The recent furor caused by the Discovery Channel's mistaken insertion
of the Balinese Pendet dance into a TV spot for Malaysia has reopened
an old wound of Indonesians, who believe Malaysian has repeatedly
stolen Indonesian cultural heritage, including the song "Rasa
Sayange", the angklung, and the Reog Ponorogo dance, among others.

For most Indonesians, that the Malaysian government can claim these
things is bewildering. Regular Indonesians would undoubtedly associate
these three intangible cultural items with three different origins:
"Rasa Sayange" is Ambonese/Maluku, the angklung is Sundanese, and the
Reog Ponorogo is Javanese.

Most Malaysians, including the government of Malaysia, however, fail
to see these as being of different cultural lineage. They lump them as
belonging to Malay (Melayu) culture.

Malay culture is considered by Indonesians in reference to the dances
of Lilin, Randai and Serampang Dua Belas, and has no direct connection
to the Javanese gamelan, the Reog or the angklung. It is directly
associated with the traditions and customs of the ethnic group within
the boundary of the Malay peninsula. Malaysians seem to see a
different boundary for Malay culture. Why is this?

Knowledge and narratives of local culture in Indonesia are developed
in association with ethnic-based regional boundaries. They are
endorsed by the state and they are part of nation building.

From elementary school, Indonesian kids learn about national heritage
by memorizing the names of dances, folk songs and visual
representations of traditional costumes.

The practice of documenting and selecting material artifacts of local
cultures is part of the larger political process of inclusion that
stresses nationalism and the national unity of Indonesia. Selective
preservation of regional and/or local art forms, in constructing the
national culture, is therefore part of the politics of exclusion.

Recognizing this pitfall, however, the ways in which local culture is
framed in Indonesia are much less crude than in Malaysia. It is still
assigned and identified with a certain cultural context/geographical
(of origin). While being partial and reductionist, multifarious
contexts and diverse locales still have some space in the narrative of
Indonesian national culture.

Malaysia adopts a different route in approaching its national and
local cultures. The modern nation-state of Malaysia frames national
culture by clustering cultural artifacts into the Malay, Chinese,
Indian and indigenous tribe (orang asli) cultures. The term Malay here
differs from that of Indonesia, and refers to and is influenced by
several concepts.

First, as enacted in the term "Malay is Muslim, Muslim is Malay", it
is a form of ethno-religion. It is entwined with the concept of ethnic
nationalism that has become today's Malaysia's dominant state-religion
relations in which the state is fused to a particular ethnic group and
religion functions as a signifier of ethnic identity.

Any Javanese, Acehnese or other Indonesian who migrated to Malaysia
will be classified as Malay and are expected to be Muslim.
Chinese-Indonesians, though, can box themselves as Chinese, thus do
not have to be Muslim.

Second, it is used in association with the Malay race (bangsa Melayu)
instead of the Malay ethnicity (suku Melayu).

This concept originated in Blumenbach's racial classification system,
which divides the world's races into the Caucasian/white race, the
Mongolian/yellow race, the Malayan/brown race, the American/red race
and the Negroid/black race. His skull-based concept has been rejected
by many anthropologists who recognize the enormous complexity of
classifying races.

He considered the inhabitants of Southeast Asia, including the
Marianas, the Philippines, the Malukus, Sundas and Pacific Islands as
Malayan. Blumenbach wrote, "Malay variety. Tawny-colored; hair black,
soft, curly, thick and plentiful; head moderately narrowed; forehead
slightly swelling; nose full..."

The concept of the Malay race is also a historical heritage of
colonialism. European planters and British officials in Malaysia were
keen to obtain laborers from the Dutch East Indies because they were
regarded as being better suited to the climate and would assimilate
more easily with the local Malays.

Indonesian migrants were viewed as originating from the same racial
stock as the Malays, regardless of ethnicity. In early colonial
Malaysia, the Straits Settlements censuses of 1871 and 1881 both
listed "Malay, Achinese, Andamanese, Boyanese, Bugis and Javanese"
separately.

In the 1891 census, however, there were major structural changes in
the classification of ethnicities. The 48 different ethnicities were
sorted under the major (hierarchical) classifications of "European and
American, Eurasian, Chinese, Malays and other Natives of the
Archipelago, Tamils and other Natives of India, and Other Races".

The creation of the category "Malay and other Natives of the
Archipelago" and the inclusions of the various ethnicities in it
contributed toward formalizing the boundaries of Malay-ness. The
modern nation-state Malaysia cultivates this heavily politicized
classification by clustering Malaysians into Malays, Chinese, Indians
and indigenous tribes.

Tracing the origin of the term Malay as used in Malaysian context, we
thus can understand that the Malaysian version of Malay is more a
product of political reconstruction (of colonialism and a modern
ethnic nationalism) and is rooted in the politics of race and identity
rather than the geographical boundary of origin.

As people move around globally, cultures flow in all directions.
Tracing the histories and origins of culture is thus always a
complicated task. Lumping together various artifacts into one Malay
culture whose boundary is heavily politicized is certainly not the
most plausible method to complete the task. It fails to recognize the
complexity of the cultures of the archipelago, thus removing them from
their multifarious contexts and locales and uprooting these cultures
from the people who shape and are reshaped by them.

As for Indonesia, it is time to recognize and appreciate local
cultures not by treating them as symbols to justify unity and
diversity, but by supporting and caring for the people who work
tirelessly in preserving and maintaining these cultures.

Senin, 24 Agustus 2009

Minggu, 23 Agustus 2009

Plan ke depannnnn

Plan ke depannnnn

OK...
Gajian bulan Agustus '09 langsung abis gara2 byr utang sing ga jelas kuwi!!
Gajian bulan September '09...entah gmn nasibnya, tapi kyke harus spare
dulu buat pulkamp, hari raya, dsb dll dst.
Gajian bulan Oktober '09...nah ini YANG HARUS DI-SPARE!!! AKU RA
PEDULI!! POKOKE KUDU DI-SPARE!!! kan udah kerja setahun, masa' ga ada
item satu pun yang murni dari keinginanku!!!

OK, maka plan untuk kredit laptop/PC-oriented-electronic-devices akan
dilakukan per gajian bulan Oktober '09.
SEMOGA LANCAR YAAAAAH!!!
Aku ra peduli maneh wes! Ujung2e ngko aku yo ngredit kok!! Timbangane
ra ono wujude, mending dikreditno
laptop/PC-oriented-electronic-devices ae!!!

AMIIIEEENNN....